The Toll Men

Having a clean house may seem like mission impossible sometimes, it is like the never ending task and no matter what you do and how clean and organized you might be there is always something to do, wash, clean, organize, mop or sweep. Organizing yourself and the other people that live in your home is key to really coming home to a clean, good-smelling home everyday. First, get your personal stuff done and don’t forget to take your Acceletrim to keep up with your weight loss goals. Next have a family meeting and make everyone responsible for something, even the kids, having them participate will teach them responsibility. Divide up the chores in to parts and distribute fairly according to age and capabilities, go a little heavier on the person that is the messiest, this will definitely teach them to change their messy ways. Next step is to grab a calendar and work out a schedule and type up a check sheet, this way they and you of course, will know by what day stuff is supposed to be done, and have them sign off and initial their chores. Come up with creative ways to encourage everyone to get their chores accomplished. When things do not turn out so perfectly a good way to remind them of their responsibilities is to give them a little extra work, maybe having them do some of the chores of the person that is doing the best job. Encourage everyone and make it a lot of fun.

am i not important enough to hear you say that your love for me is true? am i not important enough for you to give me a clue? that you wont me that you need me that without you it will bleed me puddles of blood that you spit though my mouth from holding your love, your lust, your tears inside they clog your pipes like a tumor growing till it stunts your growth am i sexy enough to be shown P.D.A.? can you live with my face hunting your every waking moment? would you really love caressing my lips with yours? can you really say that you can handle the cards i’ve been dealt? am i smart enough to know that you don’t like me? am i smart enough to see that you don’t wont to fight me? because the thought of touching me discuses you do you feel i have to much to change? does my body, my mind, my voice not please you? or do you really and truly love me but wont and need more? am i afraid of myself? did that push you away? or would it because i’m not completely gay? please tell me cause i’m lost unblock my see no i mean my sight from black and white love me like i love you love me please i’m i afraid of myself so show me to love me if not for you for my health

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Dreaming of having the perfect wedding is what every bride and groom wish for and why wouldnt they with all the time and effort they put into the preparations. Wedding plans and what goes on behind the scenes is very time consuming. Things like ordering the wedding bands, gown, and securing the date for the reception hall and chapel can all prove to be an ordeal, but if carefully thought out instead of leaving arrangements like this to the last minute then you can be sure of a smooth road ahead.
Sometimes it is the little things that are overlooked that can cause the whole event to go pear shaped and one being is the absence of a centrepiece. Wedding centrepieces are beautiful embellishments that are extremely important. These eye catching pieces of work will add beauty where ever they are placed.

Centrepieces do not have to be the centre of attention on the day but if displayed with perfection in mind then expect surrounding areas to send out volumes of high tone attractiveness especially if the centrepiece is flowers.

Classical yet simple wedding centrepieces intend to evolve round flowers and ornaments. Flowers without doubt are a hot favourite for couples tying the knot because of the way the nature blooms add colour and project a lingering natural fragranced aroma. Check availability on flowers because they are seasonal and therefore your choice may have to be shipped in from another country.

Have an organiser come in early to arrange all flower displays; this will give you time to satisfy your curiosity of how they will look. Remember wrong blossoms can do more harm taking away beauty instead of enhancing it. Other ideal options for a wedding centrepiece are silver candelabras. If you are considering floating candles in a glass bowl then you have a guarantee of a pretty enough sight to take the limelight

Depending on where you marry centrepieces will differ, if the wedding ceremony is to be held in the garden then consider nature for your theme. Miniature birdhouses and flower baskets are fabulous items that can be used.

If after all those months of scrimping and scraping and you find your self still counting the pennies then budget wisely but do not fret. Have fresh fruit, just as sweet smelling as flowers but this way you get the best of both worlds where you have a centre piece juicy enough to eat.

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“My husband won’t show me his feelings.” We hear it over and over again from frustrated wives. And a husband who won’t share emotions can be an obstacle to a better marriage. Why?

True intimacy - the closeness that results when two people can honestly share deep feelings - is elusive when one partner can’t or won’t reveal who he truly is emotionally.

I believe that finding intimacy in a marriage is made more difficult because of the way boys are raised in most societies. We’re taught to never show pain or allow ourselves to be vulnerable. Feelings are for girls.

When I grew up, this was the accepted definition of what manliness was all about. You solved problems or played sports if you were a boy. Many men raised in this model have never known any other reality, and they take this attitude into their marriage.

The sad result too often is missed opportunities at happiness, embittered partners, even divorce. Sometimes after years of marriage, couples ask us, “What went wrong in our marriage?”

What I found out was a secret that has given me a great marriage and been a key to a successful life.

The secret is this: Emotions are a source of strength and power. And by being sensitive to what you’re feeling and being real with your spouse regarding your emotions in a positive way, you can set the stage for a wonderful, rewarding and fulfilling marriage.

Men who never tap into their feelings don’t realize that they could have more joy, spontaneity, laughter, and better sex in their marriage by following a simple prescription. But at some level, many are afraid of confronting feelings, especially negative ones, because they haven’t developed the skills to handle them appropriately.

When many couples have a fight, the usual response from both partners is defensiveness and mutual blame. The predictable outcome in the marriage is a downward spiral. Couples may shut down emotionally, intimacy is lost and the quality of the marriage suffers.

But a paradox in relationships is that moments of conflict hold the greatest potential for emotional intimacy. This can happen when the partners take responsibility for working on themselves rather than getting caught up in blaming the other.

Here are some guidelines that will help both partners to use their feelings to improve their marriage:

1. Realize that emotions can be a powerful ally in helping you get what you want in your marriage relationship. Be open to the possibility that feelings (even negative emotions) offer the potential and power to create a win-win situation for yourself and your spouse. Be aware that showing emotions appropriately can be a path to strength and success.

2. Notice what emotions you feel when you’re with your spouse. Don’t hold back in showing your spouse positive feelings like love, appreciation, and respect. But pay special attention when you’re upset or feeling angry. It’s been said that there are really only two basic emotions - love and fear.

If you’re feeling some negative emotion like anger, stop and take a deep breath. Deep down, you may have some fear that is being activated. Ask yourself: “What fear does this situation bring up for me?” Be willing to share those fears with your spouse, using “I” statements rather than “you.”

You might say something like: “When you made us late last night to the party my first reaction was to get mad at you. Then I realized I really felt embarrassed because I was afraid our friends would think I wasn’t reliable.”

Take responsibility for your emotions and adopt the attitude of “How can I use this experience to grow?”

3. Remember to be kind to your spouse, even while disagreeing. You can use compassion while gently voicing your concerns. Choose your words carefully. Never stomp on the vulnerable side that your spouse shows. And ask her (or him) to show you the same respect.

It’s important to learn to tolerate your emotional discomfort during an argument without lashing out at your spouse. It can take courage to maintain courtesy and respect for your spouse even in the midst of disagreement. But it’s well worth it.

Reaching for true intimacy requires opening up some part of yourself that is tender and easily hurt. That part is your innermost self - the sacred ground of the spirit. It is tender grass that an insensitive partner could easily trample on. Make sure you don’t step on your spouse’s feelings when she shares them with you.

4. Be willing to take responsibility for your side in a disagreement and apologize for your part. Above all, avoid blaming your spouse.

Even if you feel justified in criticizing your spouse, use moderation. Recognition from you that every disagreement has two sides and that you respect her right to have her own perception will go a long way toward ending a quarrel. This creates an opening for reconciliation.

Sharing feelings can be scary for men, because it goes against ingrained beliefs and habits about what it means to be male in this society. But in a relationship of compassion and trust, the sharing of deep emotions can create a marriage of profound intimacy that can only be described as a soul connection.

And this type of relationship has universal appeal. Because happiness is a currency that everyone wants.

Lee Hefner is the co-author of Keep Your Marriage: What to Do When Your Spouse Says “I don’t love you anymore!” This e-book is available at http://www.KeepYourMarriage.com. You can also sign up for the free Keep Your Marriage Internet Magazine to get weekly ideas and support to help you save your marriage.