I once heard a story about a suicidal man who was on his way to jump off a cliff; on his way he met a little boy, who innocently smiled at him. This bothered him, in a pleasant way, he didn’t know the boy but somehow his smile seemed to have seeped through his senses and all of a sudden he just felt good, good enough to forget that he was about to kill himself. Bottom line? The boy’s smile saved his life. The power of smile is that amazing.
They say that it requires much less muscles to smile than to frown. So it won’t be such a strenuous thing to do. Some people are actually gifted with such beautiful smiles that you would be mesmerized if they smiled at you. But all the same a smile from anybody automatically warms our hearts. It makes a stressed out person feel less stressed.
Another good thing about smiling is that it actually makes you look better, more pleasant and approachable. Common sense would send a person away from someone who is frowning whether or not that person meant to frown or was just doing it out of habit.
Nowadays, it seems to be commonly practiced that you should smile only to people you know. There really is nothing wrong with smiling to strangers especially if you were just walking in the street and happen to catch his glance. It may feel uneasy at first, but it definitely will feel good later.
So the next time you want to look the best you can, just put on the most magical make-up ever created, smile.
am i not important enough to hear you say that your love for me is true? am i not important enough for you to give me a clue? that you wont me that you need me that without you it will bleed me puddles of blood that you spit though my mouth from holding your love, your lust, your tears inside they clog your pipes like a tumor growing till it stunts your growth am i sexy enough to be shown P.D.A.? can you live with my face hunting your every waking moment? would you really love caressing my lips with yours? can you really say that you can handle the cards i’ve been dealt? am i smart enough to know that you don’t like me? am i smart enough to see that you don’t wont to fight me? because the thought of touching me discuses you do you feel i have to much to change? does my body, my mind, my voice not please you? or do you really and truly love me but wont and need more? am i afraid of myself? did that push you away? or would it because i’m not completely gay? please tell me cause i’m lost unblock my see no i mean my sight from black and white love me like i love you love me please i’m i afraid of myself so show me to love me if not for you for my health
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Do you know that many people feel they cannot achieve what they want in life because they are not in control of their circumstances? Is it really so?
How many times have you heard this: “If only I had creativity like him, I would be able to develop innovative Internet Marketing products,” or “if only I had the money to start the e-commerce business, then I would be able to set up a business”? Do you know that all these things are within our control the moment we change ourselves?
It sounds unbelievable but it’s true! This requires a shift in your paradigm of thinking and it moves you from a powerless state to a state where you can actually take control. We will now take a look at 3 ordinary people like you and me who are able to achieve what they want in life through this simple principle.
David was a guy in his late 30s who was still actively looking for a partner to settle down. When I ask him why he had not settled down, he replied that he was still looking for his ideal partner. His idea of an ideal partner is a beautiful, smart, elegant and well-mannered lady. I started to ask him, “Would this ideal partner want to take you as her partner?” Immediately, he gets the idea. As David had messy hair, liked to drink and smoke, he realized that his ideal partner would never be attracted to somebody like him. He started to make an effort to comb his hair neatly and kicked his drinking and smoking habits. In a couple of months down the road, he finally found the ideal partner that he was looking for.
Mark was in the Internet Marketing business. He was not getting the sales result that he wanted to achieve. After attending a teleconference call by one of the Internet Marketing gurus, he realized the reason why he was not achieving the sales result he wanted was due to lack of planning and insufficient market research for his product. Mark evaluated his methods and began to make a conscious effort to change the way he works. He started to plan well and do sufficient market research before launching his product. The next product that he released was a runaway success!
Ken was a new teacher. He was allocated to teach the most mischievous class in the whole school. Many teachers in the school had already given up on this class. Initially, Ken tried the usual approach to teach the class, but it didn’t work well. Ken started evaluating his method and decided to change his approach of teaching them. Instead of the usual one-way communication to the student, Ken engaged the students in the class through fun interactions and games. When the exam results was out, the class had dramatically improved their result.
Based on the above stories, we saw that in order to change the situation, the first change must come from within ourselves. Very often, we feel powerless to change our situation when we feel that things are not within our control. Through this simple principle of changing ourselves in order to change things, we have the power to take control rather than being a victim of the circumstances. When we take responsibility for what we get and change ourselves, everything and everybody will change with us! For things to change, I must change…FIRST!
So…
If you want to be the top Internet Marketer, work hard and work smart.
If you want to be the best employee, constantly value-add to the company.
If you want to find the perfect girlfriend, be that perfect boyfriend first.
Take a piece of paper and write down the top 5 things that you want to change and list down the 5 changes that you would take in order to change the situation. If you do not know what the problem is, kindly seek the help of a friend or loved one who can point it out to you. Start changing your life today!
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What you focus on and pay attention to at any given time is very important. You need to concentrate to finish what you started. If you don’t focus, you can be easily distracted and you can pass your whole life away, frustrated and unfulfilled, without accomplishing anything of what you wanted.
Too often we focus on
something that is inappropriate for us and it drains
us of energy. There are many people in this world
who are constantly focused on paying their bills.
That becomes their only focus, and they lose
sight of the needs of other people around them,
including their children, their spouses, and friends.
Debt is a huge distraction and great pain to so
many of us. We are overwhelmed with debt.
We really have to focus to stop spending, and to get out of
debt, otherwise we will also never be able to a
ccomplish what we are called to do.
Often times you must change your focus and
concentrate on attaining something that will help you
or propel you forward with time. For instance, you
may need to go to school and get a degree before you
can take a job that is higher paying. But you have to
take your focus from your bills to the focus of completing
your school requirements, and do it well. Once you receive
that degree or certification, then you need to focus on
presenting yourself to prospective employers and getting
a better paying job. If you focus on that job, and keep
your spending habits down to a minimum, you can pay down
your bills over time.
People can get into mental loops that keep
playing the same things over in their head.
Unless they put effort into breaking these mental loops,
and control their focus, they will not live their lives to
the fullest. The same goes for you. If you focus on
bizarre things all the time, bizarre things will begin to
dominate your spirit. If you focus on all the things that
cause you to worry, you will be worried all the time. If you
focus on fearful things all the time, you will become
fearful, distrustful and isolated.
These are some of the mental loops that grab your attention and focus. You have to control your thoughts and break bad mental habits. Pay attention to what you focus on. We have to plug up the drains on our time and our energy. If you have work to
do on a project, do your work first and then go and play.
Put your focus into areas that will create a sustainable
income and then you can go and have fun. If your partner
has become your whole focus, at what cost does that come?
Are you willing to pay that cost? Can you have more of a
balance in that area of your life? If you are with the
right partner, h/she will not be possessive of your time
but will share it equally, will encourage you to be the best
that you can be, and will let you focus on what you need to.
You will do the same in return. It is a support team.
One such mental loop that is created is always
putting your thoughts on something that is fearful to
you. How often do we focus on something that we don’t
want to happen, only to see that become a reality?
Your constant focus has acted like a magnet and drawn
in the very thing of which you are petrified. Your focus,
a powerful tool when used in the right capacity, has
become a stagnant, redundant drain on your life force.
The only way to correct the drain is to reconnect to a new focus. Stop the worrisome, fearful, anxious thoughts and start thinking about how you would like to appear in your new life. Start focusing on what you would like to accomplish and how you
will go about doing that. It is not too late to change your focus from something negative and hurtful to something expansive and productive.
Fear and worry causes your energy to retract and become smaller, whereas joy and good imagination causes an expansion to the unlimited capacity of which you are really capable. You can choose to redirect your focus right now.
If you are working on a project, you must focus on
all the steps of the project before they are executed.
That way you will have a solid working plan to complete
the project. After plotting out the structure of the project,
you will focus on each step in priority. Usually you have to
do one thing before you do another, so there is a progression
and order. On occasion you have to complete two or more tasks almost simultaneously. Do what you need to do to the best of your ability, but do not lose your focus, which is completing the whole project. You can’t let yourself get stuck on one part. If you are stymied in one area there may be another part of the project where you can begin to
move forward.
You must be conscious of the focus of time,
and attention, and do not let yourself be distracted.
If you are working on a project by yourself, you must
have discipline, patience, good working habits, be able
to motivate yourself, and determine your focus.
When you are self employed or working on your own, you are
the director, employee, and motivator. If you can’t
motivate, and discipline yourself, nothing will be accomplished
well. If you are learning something new it requires a
lot of focus, concentration, determination, and self-
encouragement. If you are creating something new, you
must hone your focus for something that is not yet there. You
must continually focus on something in your imagination that
is further down the line, but that is coming. Doubt can
distract you from your focus. It is your job to shake yourself
and refocus on your goals. You must see yourself in
your imagination, having accomplished what you set out to
do.
Besides mental loops that can distract your focus,
interruptions from people can break your focus, and the foods
you eat can diminish your concentration and focus.
Excessive sugar, caffeine, and alcohol, in your diet
can wreak havoc on your concentration and your work.
Again, it’s part of self-discipline to monitor what and how much
you are ingesting, and to guard your focus. People can easily
take all your allotted time if you don’t politely let them
know that you are working right now. Again, you can
make a choice to take a moment with a friend or associate,
or you can let them know that you need to continue
working. You need a focus in almost everything that
you do, if it is not work, then you also need to focus
when you are learning, listening, painting, cooking,
meditating, praying, communicating, attending to children,
and traveling etc. Guard your focus, work with it and
you will be well on your way to accomplishing great things.
Yoga Kat–aka Katheryn Hoban is a yoga teacher with twelve years experience. She teaches children’s yoga ages 3-6, and 7-12 and Adults privately in NJ. She is the author the book DAUGHTER BELOVED which will come out next year. She has created a children’s affirmation CD (ages 3-6) and an affirmation CD for adults. Yoga Kat is available for speaking or writing and can be reached at katscoolcorner@yahoo.com or 201 970-9340